Does Life Seem Unfair?
Try as you might, sometimes you can’t win. Things just don’t go your way. Your love life is falling apart. You’ve lost your job. Your friends have stopped calling. The collector is knocking at the door. You’re thinking it doesn’t get any worse than this. You try to give yourself courage and hope. At one moment or another, it seems like you just might overcome the pain and almost start feeling content. After all, you’re after nothing more than fairness. Then, the knowing sinks in again. It doesn’t matter how hard you want things to be different, you have to face the truth – they are unfair. It’s a cruel world that depletes our energy and discards us like rag dolls.
Where Do “Life is Cruel” Quotes Come in?
If you feel this way often enough, it can start to seem like you have no control over your life, and if that’s not a sinking feeling, we don’t know what is. The truth is that we may not have control over external events and circumstances, but we have something more important – control over the way we react to them. Here are 13 “life is unfair” quotes to help you pull through the next time you feel like the bright future and fairness are a mirage.
1. “Whatever you do, never run back to what broke you.” – Frank Ocean
This is one of many unfairness quotes that may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how often people make this mistake. You may think something gave you comfort – alcohol, drugs, a codependent relationship with an abusive person – but all it did was make you weaker. It’s obvious to those around you. We have a hard time looking at things from different perspectives because ours is the only one we know.
2. If you have nothing to be grateful for, check your pulse.
The mother of all “unfair” sayings. As long as we are alive, there is hope. The craziest, but also truest inscription I ever read on a tombstone: “I wish I had your problems!” If that doesn’t provide solace when you think life is unfair, we don’t know what will.
3. Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come.
Does the present moment seem terrible? You’re thinking it couldn’t be worse? That’s a good thing because the future can only be better. You have love, power, joy, and satisfaction to look forward to.
4. “The only thing that makes life unfair – the delusion that it should be fair.” – Dr. Steven Maraboli
We need to deal with this fact of life. Again, what we can change are our reactions to the knowledge that life is unfair.
5. When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. When life is bitter, say thank you and grow.
Take things as they come and live in the now. We know the struggle is real, but don’t worry about what might happen before the fact. It makes things go from bad to worse, believe us. Be happy about the good things – you have a job, a person or people you love, a roof over your head – and learn from the pain and sorrow.
6. Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.
Optimism and pessimism are two sides of the same coin, just like fair – unfair. We’ll provide a simple example – you lose your job, but then you find a much better one.
7. Every day is another chance to change your life.
The one truly limited resource is time. Every wasted day is lost forever. Work hard to achieve something you’re proud or at least content with every day of your life because you’ll never get it back.
8. It’s during the worst storms of your life that you will get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you.
Our friends are not those who are there to laugh, eat, and drink with us. They are those who stand by us when we cry and suffer. Do you know a person like this? Let them know you’re thinking of them and how much they matter to you.
9. Look for something positive in every day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.
Let’s be honest. Some days, you should be happy only because they weren’t as bad as you thought they would be. True, and so very real.
10. Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful.
It sounds clichéd, but it’s true: things are not perfect. Surround yourself with positive people who manage to be happy despite that.
11. Keep smiling and one day life will get tired of making you upset.
A study showed people who made consistent efforts to smile more reported that they started feeling happier after a while. But don’t listen to people who say “your smile shouldn’t leave your face.” That’s a syndrome. Just watch the Joker.
12. You have to live through the worst parts so you never take the best parts for granted.
Ever had the feeling things just couldn’t get any worse, and they did? Enough said.
13. Keep going…Difficult roads can lead to beautiful destinations.
Most of the greatest entrepreneurs in history became successful because they chose “the road not taken”. They conceived a product or service that others before them imagined too difficult to realize. They deserve their success.
Life is not Fair – Accept the Struggle
It’s all too easy to be envious of entrepreneurs, businesspersons, politicians, celebrities…people who seem to “have it all.” We shouldn’t discount their struggles; the efforts they made to get where they are. Without struggles, we wouldn’t appreciate the good things. Here are 3 ways to help you cope with struggles, change, and break through barriers.
1. Don’t Forget: You Always have a Choice
No outside influence can force you to adopt a certain attitude or make a certain decision. Embrace your responsibility and right to self-determination. You don’t have to settle for a joyless relationship or a job you don’t like. Feeling negative is a sign you need to make a change.
2. Keep Your Heart and Mind Open to Change
People can make their lives difficult by resisting change. Appreciate that change can help you grow. It may not always feel comfortable, but it will show you the way. We make the best decisions when our frustration and desperation have reached a critical limit.
3. Embrace the Opportunity to Make Better Choices
Everybody deserves to be happy, but happiness doesn’t always come without effort. Focusing on what’s good in your life helps. Studies have shown that persons with neurotic tendencies, who are prone to focus on negative things, actually attract these things because negative occurrences are in line with their expectations, effectively turning into a self-fulfilling prophesy.
4. Nothing Lasts Forever
Nothing lasts forever. Pain and sorrow pass. If they didn’t, we wouldn’t know happiness. Joy and sadness are just like optimism and pessimism – two sides of the same coin, where one can’t exist without the other.